I'm leaving you New Orleans.

 And as of now, I don't know if I can come back. 

I was in an accident. What could have been a very bad accident. I am fine now. I am doing significantly better than doctors said I would. I scared a lot of people- I didn't mean to scare so many people. I am told it was not my fault. But I don't think  the doctors will accept any responsibility for letting people fret. 

If they had any faith in... ANYTHING... they wouldn't have let my family and friends suffer so much. They would have used some sense, some common courtesy and thought, "This woman got hit by a car and then flew a good twenty feet down the street. AND SURVIVED. She just might prove us all wrong and make it." With that knowledge they could have said something nicer to my mom about how I'm young and strong and willful. 

They did not say these things. And for that... I have not been able to forgive them. I doubt I ever can. 

 I have wibbly bits There was a severe knock to my head. I am forgetful. I forget words that I know (it is a dark place for an English Major to live). Eye surgery that hasn't quite set. I have metal in my right eye orbit. Jaw surgery that has essentially rewritten how I speak, what I can eat and how I smile. It has also altered the progress of years of  wearing braces. I might have to get them again. Until that happens I  have a metal strip in my jaw. I have metal in my tail bone too. A swollen right knee. I walk very slowly and with assistance.

 I did manage to break a shoulder bone that did not require a torso cast (because secretly... I know Judo and I Judo threw myself onto the ground in a way did not shatter my shoulder but instead Judo jostled it into a broken but mend-able position. Though, apparently, I don't know Judo well enough to not get my tail bone broken... ). 

I have many wibbly living bits. And for that... I can thank the doctors. 

I am not mad about the incident in a way that makes sense. I am not mad at a driver. I am not mad at myself. I am not mad at a distraction that caused all this. 

I am, to tell the truth, a little mad at New Orleans. 

I came here because my heart was so hurt and I needed time to mend. I came here because I had a degree I'd been aching to use and needed a city that wanted help teaching its children. I came here because I hadn't been anywhere new in so long that I had forgotten what it's like to feel invigorated by a new home. I had forgotten about my need to explore. 

After a year and a half I was starting to get things right. I had learned that love will try to hurt you physically just as powerfully as it had hurt you psychically. I had been hired for a job that I was looking forward to. Something that would mean something to me. It would have changed my jaded outlook on life and maybe resurrected my desire to do better for this world. And I did explore. Maybe not as much as I could have, but as far as my pocket book, my work schedule and my comfort zone would allow. I discovered what COUNTED, what came to mean the world to me. 

And that's when I got in the accident. 

I think at that point... I've just had too many hurts to the heart. I felt that agonizing but ILLOGICAL desperation. 

Did I do something wrong? Have I done something to deserve the good things I have to be taken away? Done something to deserve THIS?

Some people might call it a crisis of faith. But I don't attribute this setback to anything divine. Logically I can't name one thing I might have done wrong. SUPER WRONG enough to get this "issued" to me. It just happens. Sometimes you get bonked around by a car. Sometimes you're with someone that means to love you, but forgets how to be loving. Sometimes, when you wanted to be a teacher, you have to deal with thankless before you get thankful. Sometimes you get so banged up you won't be able to work for a year.

Sometimes you just need a reality check and you need to get some rest. Sometimes you need to go home. 

So I'm going home to New Mexico. I need to have a quiet brain space. 

I need desert power. 

A month ago, during a speech therapy session, I was told I might not completely re-establish my speech patterns and word knowledge. I was told to, "Prepare myself for the worst." I promptly said, "That won't work for me. I'm going to be a teacher. I'm a poet. I spent half a decade reading all of the words and then writing papers about all the words." 

With that, I began proving them wrong about this "prepare for the worst" theory. 

The people who care very deeply for me... I would not have been able to do this without them. At a party (thrown in my honor) I was invited to speak. It is rare I find myself so incapable of speaking. Certainly rare after I decided diagnosis or no, I had no time for this "being sick." But I did share this. 

I had the support of those who were my voice when I did not have one. 

I had many people... all over the WORLD really, who were rooting for me, providing me with support and strength. Combined our determination could not be overwhelmed by something as simple as an accident.  

Mission accomplished y'all. 

Never tell me the odds.

"If I were you, I'd take issue with that..."

The separate spheres of life are meant to revolve? Rotate? Orbit? There is some sort of mathematical/scientific word for what round things do, when they hang out, but don't collide.

That word, is what should, ideally, be happening in your life with the really big stuff. Profession v. Personal. Paycheck v. Pleasure. What you DO to live and HOW you live are part of the same system but don't belong on the same path. I give you this- they can pace each other. Travel at the same speed and make transfer. Collaborate rather than collide. They don't have to intersect or touch to make this transfer. Everything just needs to be timed appropriately and given a respectful amount of distance. Transfer should be tasteful and with good judgment. You shouldn't slosh your work gravity all over your personal life with the same respect that you wouldn't drag your personal burdens into work life.

It throws the system out of whack. It'll make your life a giant crushed ball of chaos and misery spinning off course and while you're scrambling to create some sort of damage control you'll come to the realization that you don't even RECOGNIZE yourself. You don't even recognize the components of your life that have created this... HOT MESS. Who the fuck are you? And where the fuck did your life go?

The only real job you have in life is to just be happy. Get happy with yourself. And if someone is UNhappy with the version of yourself that is trying to get happy... then they are tuned into the wrong dimension. Fuck them.

In my personal experience your spiritual (or philosophical) sphere is the largest so it needs the most space and it can either take up all your energy or if you are very lucky is the source of your energy. I do not advise that you tamper with that dynamic. If your faith in humanity and the divine can either drain you entirely and leave you dark or ignite your ability to happily participate in society and allow you to shine...

Who would WANT to gamble with that balance?!

The world already offers so many chances to test our faith. You shouldn't want to invite any other opportunities to rattle your ZONE. You know? There are far larger problems in the world than having to worry about your worlds colliding.

Worlds are already colliding.

One day you're going to campaign for a candidate that is going to piss your mom off. You're going to date someone that really is exactly like your father. You're going to post something on Twitter and discover the majority of your friends don't agree with your point of view. Or worse, you'll have a bad day because your mom is mad, your dad is jerk, your boyfriend is even MORE of a jerk, your friends don't get you AND WORK SUCKED so you make the mistake of posting something on Facebook along the lines of, "AAAAAAAAAAAAARGHFUCK YOUALLWHATTHEFUCKHELLBALLS!" But a co-worker/"friend" is going to tell your boss that you were being unprofessional on your personal profile...

And on those days, your life, worlds all-a-collision-course, is so damn outta control that you only get one space, only place to retreat to.

And if it is sullied by some shit storm unnatural force that doesn't belong in your spiritual sphere... well then.

You are royally fucked and you need to learn how to guard your private spaces with more caution.

Battle ready, and thicker skinned, you're gonna learn.

what else do you like about the singing?

that it's all poetry. which no one really pays attention to. but we're singing some of the oldest, loveliest spiritual poetry that the world's ever had.

yeah! i know those songs, but not how they translate. the melodies are what get me. how do they translate?

the translations are always... joyous. it's always about how there is nothing simpler to do but sing poetry and feel good. easiest thing in the world to be washed over with faith and beauty.
and that's when we get hit with very complex emotions. it's what we do with those emotions. feel good but don't over indulge. allow yourself forgiveness but don't see yourself as blameless.

did you just come up with that?

yeah. you'd think i were a writer or something.

write that down.

i DID.

Why I rise #OneBillionRising

This morning I rise, not in my own home, but in the home of good people... great friends, who welcomed me and helped me feel safe. Good friends who did not tell me that I should have left my situation sooner, but only showed gratefulness that I was able to leave.

I rise because there are so many women who are afraid to leave. It can be complicated and scary. There might not be any place to go. So I rise because I want the world to learn that we need to make safe spaces. We have to let women know that they can get OUT, they can LEAVE. We have to let women know that they have a right to save their lives. Above all we have to let women know that we are here to help them. We are here to love them.

This morning I rise with a book by my bed, a book in my bag, and books in boxes. I am fortunate enough to have lead a life in which I was gifted literacy.

I rise because there are societies in the world that have put a limitation on the education of their young girls. These societies are afraid of girls and women who have knowledge about the world. Educated women can and WILL demand being treated fairly. These women will rise. They will demand to rule their own bodies. They will demand to further their education. They will demand that their sons be raised in environments that do not encourage the violation of women. They will demand that their daughters be given every opportunity to live safe and happy lives. I rise because I want more women to rise.

This morning I rise on Valentine's day without a love in my life. Correction, this morning I rise with a love for myself in my life.

I rise because the preconception that romance HAPPENS pisses me off. Young women in this country (and others) are cultivated to subject themselves to wait for something. Romance vs. Respect. I'll take respect, thank you.

This morning I rise, ready to walk on an earth that does some really whack things to women.

I rise because on this planet, there are societies that slice the clitoris off of young girls. Denying a woman her sexuality so she will recognize sex as an obligation should be a crime.

I rise because in my country legislators want to give rapists the right to parent their violently sired children. Seriously?!

I rise because in my city a woman was abducted and assaulted only a few blocks from where I work.

I rise because I've been hit, slammed against a wall, whipped with a wire and coerced. I have been date raped, verbally abused, and emotionally manipulated. I have had people read my mail, destroy my poetry, and help themselves to my on line chat sessions with friends. I have been violated physically, emotionally and socially.

And I'm still here. Still strong. Always ready to take the world on.

I rise because of the strength of the Comfort Women. Because My Vagina IS my Village. Because Woman to stop the Violence against Woman (we MUST stop the violence against ourselves). Because I'm in my Short Skirt today and any day I like. Because I am the Woman who Loves to Make Vaginas Happy.

I rise because of Norma, Elodia, Annie, Sunny, Ellie and Kirrah. I rise for Ariel, Rose, Allyson, Melissa Amanda, Sofia, Dani, Katie, Emily, Tamar (your recent love note really made my day), Anne and Renee. For all of the Veteran Vaginas that I have known.

I rise for Virginia.

I rise for Bryan, Jake and Joe! You gentlemen fill my heart! I rise for Brannden, Elias, Ace and David John. I rise for the man that never hurt me. I rise because no man ever should have hurt me.

I rise because there is a lot of love in my life. You are all my loves. And I'm glad you are rising with me. I rise because there is still love to be had.

The world needs to know about MORE THAN ONE BILLION WOMEN... are hurt, are hurting, have been hurt.

Today we should rise and create a world where they are loved.

Evacuation

“The things you think about, times like these.”

The books. Cannot be replaced.

But for some odd reason you leave behind the box of books signed by their poets. You've met these poets. You are sure that if you requested a signature on a new copy, you would receive. You could dedicate some of your time tracking them down at readings. Reminding them of the first time you bought this book. Tell them why you need this book again.The sword will boom to your chest that again and always, "Imagine the Angels of Bread."

Books that can not be left behind.

• Anything that has to do with the sisterhood of bees.
• “The Source” as presented and grandly dedicated by your accidental fountain.
• Similarly gifted Siddur...
• With love and respect, all books regarding God will not be abandoned despite present circumstances.
• Complete works of William Shakespeare (you are suddenly surprised by your miraculous allegiance to the Bard. Despite your many academic frays.)
• Complete works of Geoffrey Chaucer (you are very not surprised by this)
• A handmade book your niece authored. Subject, “Our Family.” In which even pets make an appearance.

The pets come with you. Dedication. You will not be moved on this.

Despite accusations you did not take wine or cologne.

Everyone knows you hate cologne.

Everyone knows you love wine. But would never steal it.

You bought your own.

You're not as worried about clothes as you thought you would be.

But worried about the good muffin pan. The perfect pans for challah. A brand new cook book.

With your hands in your hair you realize you will not leave without the honey. Honey from Home. Honey from Israel. And on hands and knees you find it. Tuck it away safe for when you can bake again. Create from the heart. 

And if you never go back, at least you grabbed the new bottle of fair trade shea. The work of women cooperatives can not go to waste.

The bed is safe. But your desk is not.

Every poet has to create priorities.

Rest. The honey will be here.